Hey, it's Lily.
I've gotten so many advice-related questions lately, I figured it was time to make a blog solely for that purpose.
I have no idea if people will actually use it, and if not, that is toootally fine. I just wanted a place to give advice other than my personal blog. <3
I love you all. xo.
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<3333333333 thank you so much for this. you’re wonderful <3
I'm a university student who has been in a lab with this girl all semester (who I have wanted to ask out) yet I didn't because if she said no, I didn't want to make the lab class awkward. Anyway, our lab final is coming up (tomorrow actually) and I think I can finally ask her since the semester is ending. I want to do it after the final, but that might not work out so perfectly due to the fact that we probably won't finish the test at the same time... so in any event, would it be too low to ask on facebook (but giving her reasons as to why I'm asking on facebook)? THANKS! :) I appreciate your help.
it’s not too low to ask a girl out on facebook, especially if it’s the first time! .. don’t worry about it! ^_^
awww I would just be like ‘YO.. we’re drunk every time we hang out.. let’s go grab a bit to eat or something before we start drinking!’ or something of the sort … that will be an easy way to start out you know … and then you can just go from there!! … anything can develop into something else!
16 is a tough age to begin with. you don’t know exactly who you are, you’re curious about everything, and you don’t really know what to do with your life.
it’s natural to question things like this, especially when you’re getting positive feedback from both your boyfriend, and this other girl.
i disagree with the statement “if i truly felt for my boyfriend i know i wouldn’t have these feelings for her” .. that’s not true.
everyone has temptations. movies and tv make us think that if we truly love someone, we won’t even THINK about other people, but that’s seriously not true. it also depends on how long you’ve been with your boyfriend.
i really don’t know what you should ‘do’ .. i hate that you’re in this situation, because I know that has to be hella confusing.
honestly, i know this might sound silly, but it ALWAYS helps me in soooo many different situations: make a pro/con list .. one for your boyfriend and one for the girl … be completely honest and write it all down… when you can literally see it in front of your face, you might totally know what to do.
i’m sorry i couldn’t help more, i just want to assure you that lots of people go through this. good luck with everything <3
Oh I know what you’re talking about … that gets annoying pretty fast :/
I really think the only way to fix this is to talk to him about it. I know that sucks, but I really have no idea how else you would correct this.
I would tell him that you really do love him and that you know he really loves you, but you shouldn’t have to talk about it 24/7.
He may just think he’s doing what you want, because many girls need constant reassurance, so it all could just be an honest mistake.
Just make sure he knows how you feel about him, and make sure he knows that you KNOW he loves you, and tell him that it’s just too much to constantly be talking about it. You guys should spend more time just getting to know each other and becoming best friends rather than always just being lovey dovey.
I totally know what you’re talking about, so you’re not crazy or anything haha! .. Good luck with everything babe <3
this year had been the hardest year of my life so far, family problems etc etc. for a moment, well kinda the entire school year i've been skipping classes and just not wanting to be around people and stuff. i'm much better now, but i've been skipping my music class all the time. i can honestly say i rarely practised at all this year. i'm good with all my other teachers and classes, but as of tomorrow, which i'll be skipping class again, that'll be like 3 weeks of skipping class in a row. i just don't really wanna confront that particular class, considering i havent practised, can't play, and i'm stressed out with all these other exams and stuff. my spring concert is next thursday, and i can't play that fucking three page piece at all lol. i kinda want to quit but i don't, because i do love it. i play the violin btw :p i just want to know what i could tell my teacher. sounds kind of dumb i know, but yeah he probably thinks i want to quit and stuff, but i truly don't, i just need a fresh start. which is what i'm trying to do for myself. or if you have no idea what to say to me, give me your best excuses? haha thank you :p (:
awwww baby. i’m so sorry it’s been the hardest year of your life, but i’m very happy to hear that you are doing much better now.
I think you ought to talk to your teacher before the spring concert.. just so he/she knows what’s going on. I’m proud of you for not just wanting to completely give up on music, but I agree, I think you need to just relax for a bit and then get a fresh new start. I recommend just being honest with your teacher .. tell him/her that life has been extremely hectic and that you just need a break. They should understand that. Life happens, and it often gets in the way of things.
I truly think that if you’re honest with him/her, it will all be okay. Teachers are usually pretty understanding … I think you should just go ahead and talk about it so you don’t have to keep worrying :)
Good luck!
awwwww i’m so sorry that you’re going through all of this :( that’s so much to handle all at once. i hate that you’re having to face it all.
especially while feeling so alone :’( … I felt the same way in high school .. it was horrible for me. i wasn’t doing drugs at the time .. but i was drinking a lot.
i wish you had someone to talk to about your sexual confusion .. fortunately, tumblr seems to be a great place for that :) most people here are not only accepting of the LGBT community, but also supportive of it!
I hope you can just take everything a day at a time, and do what you can to make it through the day. I’m always here if you need anything. I wish I had more advice :/ <3
i’m sorry, that’s really awful :( unfortunately, I’ve heard this story time and time again.
i can only tell you what’s worked for me .. and that is DON’T HOOK UP WITH SOMEONE UNLESS YOU’RE IN A RELATIONSHIP … i’m not saying that because of moral issues, I’m just saying that because of the success rate. like … 9x out of 10 if you hook up with a guy before you’re in a relationship .. things won’t last. there’s just something about it.
i’m not saying it’s not possible .. but there are definitely the rare times that it ends up being ‘happy ever after’ .. but that’s uncommon.
i would definitely talk to him, just for your sake.. because that really isn’t fair to you. however, guys have a tendency to get what they want sexually and then move on.
if a guy doesn’t like you enough to be exclusive before hooking up, then don’t waste your time on him in the first place. sorry baby </3
Damn that’s a really tough situation ….. honestly, if I were in your shoes … I don’t even know what I would do. I probably wouldn’t be comfortable with it just because of past issues … now, I don’t know that that’s the ‘right’ thing though … I might feel the same way you do just due to insecurities as opposed to realities if that makes sense.
He could genuinely have completely innocent motives, but at the same time … that’s just kind of too close for comfort to me so I can obviously completely understand how you feel.
I would just talk to him and be like why is it so important for you to be friends? Why does he want to get involved with her/them again?
I wish I could help you more, but I basically can only say that I completely understand and can relate to what you’re saying.
